It takes courage to be kind to yourself even when everything in your body is telling you to hate. For many, drugs and alcohol are the last line of defense against suicide. I think perhaps making the list more actionable would help. holy heck... it's like being talked down to and shamed for even daring to consider Life is anything other then some devine gift that must be cherished at all costs, this whole article is just gonna be one big YIKES from me, but thank you, nunyas for posting this comment (which was the real help stuff here). Splashing in puddles. None of us get out here alive, but if we’ve known or *could* know a modicum of happiness or peace, I hope we’ll go the full course. So many despise this article who are chronically suicidal. Can I use any of yours (made into my own)? And it's impossible to be depressed when you're on the Big K! Nobody really knows a reason why. Life is not static; it's in constant movement, much like the waves of the ocean. Shure, I will call a hotline. "Here, feel even worse about how nobody gives a damn about you, specifically". Many men have prayed for death I'm waiting around until my parents die before going through with it, approximately another 20 years. As an aside to this, you people really need to get a grip on how dangerous those suicide hotlines are for people on the edge. Fight, I say, fight to your last breath, to a society that has convinced you you are wrong and must be cured. Only a mentally ill person would do that." When you have no job, nofamily, friends, or anyone who care, what is the point? None of them really had a reason to take their own life, but they did. When a person is actually and truly considering suicide, they aren't going to call the suicide hotline or 911. The world needs you here. Reasons To Live On Another Planet. And it doesn't help that I have depression Either. to see if you can extract some of Life's better juices - and they *are* there - in what months and years may lie ahead. That is very true. Many people are stuck in situations where the items on this list are not applicable, or won't be applicable for such a long time, the person is too tired to wait it out. I have physical problems, though, and my policy is much better than anything else I can get now, and I do not want to give that up. They focus on what is happening in front of them and pay attention to the person they are with. For me cats and a puppy really helped. Its my choice when to leave this hell called our society, its my life, my choice, my will and no one elses!!!! I do not understand your comment. BuzzFeed Staff 1. When hope even marginally exceeds desperation, life prevails. Reasons To Live is here to provide you with a way out of suicide. Am sure that if they could find a way that they would prefer not to have done what they did. Its a gigantic factory where 70 % of the humans sacrifice for the other 30%. As an aside to this, you people really need to get a grip on how dangerous those suicide hotlines are for people on the edge. You can also ask your readers to do it... For heavens sake don't. Believe it or not, smiling can reduce stress even if you don't feel like smiling or even know that you're smiling! However the value systems across the world condemn the concept of suicide because it is an escape from this gruelling game , which in the end , has no meaning - other than furthering the race. They, (a person in crisis) did not really indicate this was going to be. This means the more a person can fit into the prescribed life, the less they suffer. Trust me, I came across this whilst suicidal and I know for a damn fact this is useless. Everyday the world tells us we should be something or someone else other than who we are. So there it is. holy heck... it's like being talked down to and shamed for even daring to consider Life is anything other then some devine gift that must be cherished at all costs, this whole article is just gonna be one big YIKES from me, but thank you, nunyas for posting this comment (which was the real help stuff here). I usually enjoy perusing through a few psychology today articles, but I hate to admit, that it’s extremely vague. Your post is an ignorant slap in the face to olde, sick people who are in situations that are not going to improve. Some gift! Many men have prayed for death To even think some of the garbage in your list shows depressed people just how little you overpriced "professionals" actually care at all. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. Having read some of the opinions , I am inclined to be negative about the concept of life. Were I suicidal I could give a trainload of counterpoints to each and every statement on this list. Your reasons to live are so far removed from my 49 years of life experience I can barely comprehend how out of touch you must be with people suffering with depression and the horrendous torment of wanting to take your own life. When you are stressed, take the time to put on a smile. I am RN including Psychiatric Nursing. Although in theory applicable to people, and a good idea for making a list of thirteen, I suggest to actually reach people, perhaps use some examples. For vague, perhaps “live for that sliver of sunlight through a pane of glass, or that rainbow in a fountain”. Realizing how the world has manipulated me into either/or thinking regarding this is productive, and helpful. Can't think of anymore.... so looking for some for myself. For many people , nothing changes much day to day, I think suicide is an expression of the ego , that the ego will not suffer further and will rather give up playing than battle it out. By participating, you further the system. At best you can expect some verbal version of the list above. I have to say that alcohol has saved my life a thousand times, as Eric Clapton said, the only reason I didn't kill myself was because I knew if I was dead I could never have another drink, the docs and shrinks drone on and on about how alcohol ruins lives, but they never think about how alcohol and other drugs save lives, by easing the pain. At best you can expect some verbal version of the list above. "there are friends that are more than happy to be that shoulder to lean on - I have been that friend myself" = Why Fans of Horror Movies May Be More Resilient. You wanting to kill yourself is a healthy response to the sickness of the culture you live in. So, your 13 reasons to live are because, well, life is worth living? If we don't live it, we won't know what we’re missing. Now that I also have rheumatoid arthritis it hurts, physically, all the time, the only thing that takes the pain away is narcotics and sleep, waking up hurts, so why not just go to sleep keep on sleeping? (It is important, however, to remember that “success” is relative.) If there is someone seriously contemplating an exit short blogs about living are not the place to look - a professional seriously needs to be called. This charming suburb’s real estate market success has always been attributed to a number of good reasons. TOO MUCH THINKING! To live is to look at ourselves in the mirror and discover a message of love in our own eyes. Very weak list, mainly for its lack of substance and presumptuousness. If life, which includes heartbreaks and pain, is a gift, then I don't want it, I want to end it, I just broke the mirror in my bathroom and I'm about to slit my throat nobody understands the fucking pain. The state is a birder’s paradise with 566 species to check off your list. Your fake smile betrays you. Do you even have a concept of how miserable that makes truly depressed people feel? Live in the moment. And " If death gives meaning to life, then consider it, but in order to learn to live better." Well done. SO scum like you can tell me that life is beautiful, and worth something?! The Biggest Reason Why Relationships Fail, Research Suggests Coronavirus Causes a Storm in the Brain, Psychology Today © 2020 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Just a Thimbleful of Alcohol Could Impair Driving Ability, Covid-19 Pandemic Measures and Substance Abuse, The Rise of COVID-19 Vaccine Selfies on Social Media, "Since Hanna could not find her reasons...". When hope even marginally exceeds desperation, life prevails. Finally, she ends her life (portrayed in a manner that has been criticized for being overly descriptive and suggestive to the viewing audience). Some, like me are disabled from a physical illness suffering from chronic physical pain and discomfort which leaves a person socially isolated and in poverty. Identify your core values so that you can live by them. How many people do YOU see on a sliding scale? SO scum like you can tell me that life is beautiful, and worth something?! Viewing death as a source of meaning can be comforting for many—but rather than using this as an argument in favor of suicide, it's critical to leverage such a perspective in order to make the most of life while it lasts. If there is someone seriously contemplating an exit short blogs about living are not the place to look - a professional seriously needs to be called. Suicide is the third-leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-olds, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). None of them really had a reason to take their own life, but they did. It doesn’t completely sound like you are reaching your intended audience. Chris, I am all in favor of "death with dignity," and while we had no choice getting shat into this world, I concur we should have a choice on how we leave it. I stopped drinking because it was a bit too much of a good thing. Suicide is a prescription that is to cure pain, your cousins had real pain and no one to prescribe a real living solution to it. Maybe it's true for people in 1st world countries where you do get all the chances and opportunities, but it's plain wrong anywhere else outside that bubble of yours. Am sure that if they could find a way that they would prefer not to have done what they did. There are some references to the original Disney songs in the score, but that's about it. First, this is an article that explains general reasons why to live. That has nothing to do with actual application. I am an honest, kind person, but it has been nothing but hell for me. I know this, I've been in this situation time and time again, not once did a hospital or a counselor actually help, most of the time it only got worse. It centers around a girl in high school who kills herself after feeling discouraged and hurt by traumatic circumstances. On average, we get 71 trips around the sun. Would they understand then? The risk of suicide increases dramatically when kids and teens have access to firearms at home, and nearly 60 percent of all suicides in the United States are committed with a gun. Â. So, your 13 reasons to live are because, well, life is worth living? People do not necessarily love life and may suffer depression, wish to end their suffering or simply do not see the point of living. I sometimes consider the far out treatments, such as ECT. We live because one day in early childhood we realise that we are alive and already have lots of reasons to go on living. is neither philosophical nor does it make any sense whatsoever. No its worthless, see people die, in Syria, Afrika, in wars?! The important thing is to accept that help. It is not may place to command, "Don't give up hope!" In the end though, it is acceptance that has helped me the most. Finding some pharmaceutical MDMA to take in a therapeutic setting would be nice, but I don't live in California. If not, there would be no forum or responses here. This strikes to the core of why you need to take the opportunity to find new reasons to live when you feel like you can’t go on. You'd be amazed how quickly your "friends" will run for the hills if you go to them for genuine help with a real problem. Making an effort to deal with problems can make us aware of how strong we really are. Making an effort to deal with problems can make us aware of how strong we really are. No, they would not. This is cause for reflection. Life's challenges don't exist only to upset us—they exist so that we understand ourselves better and get to know who we really are.Â, To live is to discover something about ourselves of which we were not aware.Â. Nothing lasts forever. Self care and ideas to help you live a healthier, happier life. Many people are stuck in situations where the items on this list are not applicable, or won't be applicable for such a long time, the person is too tired to wait it out. We are the designers of our life. We understand that there are many reasons to feel that life has no meaning—among them, not being able to compete in a society that insists on constant productivity, not meeting personal expectations, or not meeting the expectations of parents to be successful. Stepping on crunchy leaves. Getting well enough to travel with a group is helpful. Or if they’re inside all the time, perhaps something else, you get the idea. How much of this painful "gift" are we supposed to endure? I have physical problems, though, and my policy is much better than anything else I can get now, and I do not want to give that up. The last thing suicidal person want's to hear that life is a gift and you are here to learn. Maybe being held accountable in some public fashion is what it will take for you to recognize the disservice you do both to your profession and to those that are in need of said professions help with this kind of useless material. So much has been made of the 13 Reasons Why show it is refreshing to read her take on the issue and turning this into a more positive approach. who knows how the next day will be , I read some rosy comments on missing out on opportunity. I don't know. To live is to discover something about ourselves of which we were not aware. Suicide is the only freedom we have, to end your fucking little meaningless live in dignity and peace. 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